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Deirdre Lewis's avatar

I loved reading this again. Still sweet and real and alive.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

And you probably know the bike path. ✈️ 🏖️

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Deirdre Lewis's avatar

I bet I do.

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E.T. Allen's avatar

Beautiful.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Thanks so much, Eric.

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Frank Blau's avatar

This is great.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Thanks, Frank. Wonderful to find you out strolling in the Comments Garden.

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Jeanine Kitchel's avatar

Always loved the Maple Drive post.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Thanks, Jeanine. I’m too sentimental to not find something for the day. Although I’m probably being too hard on myself there.

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Jeanine Kitchel's avatar

Maple Drive was the first of your posts I read. And re sentimentality—right there with ya.

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Ana Bosch's avatar

This captures so perfectly the feeling of free falling in love.

“ I pedaled, neither the little gears nor the big gears or any arrangement of gears in between would release it, but still I pedaled on, further and harder, until I was exhausted.”

The energy that comes out of no where, the rise of adrenaline and the butterflies, ah! The butterflies.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

You don’t get it a thousand times. I’m probably under 10 and that was the big one. I knew she was the one out of the gate. We both did. I was very blessed in that department.

I wrote Maple Drive because I’d never written a collection of essays on the story of falling in love. (I’m sure they are out there.)

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Ana Bosch's avatar

I read them. For what it’s worth, I only really felt it once, with the intensity you describe at least, and it’s when I met my (second) husband. I could only think- ah! so this is what it was supposed to be like. I had fallen in love before, but never with the keenness that demands perpetual presence of the other person. Where the waiting is just as exhilarating as the having, and the anticipation never gets disappointed.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

I have to think once is perfect. You should have written these. 😀

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Different thought: there’s an anxiety to it, too.

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Ana Bosch's avatar

But it is the type of sweet anxiety that is filled with hope.

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Anna Schott's avatar

MIL FTW

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Adam Nathan's avatar

You’re going to think I’m making this up. I’m not. I’m really just being competitive: my son was born on Mother’s Day. And…. You’ll never beat this: my dad fucking died on Christmas.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Life is full of strange turns. I was honored to give her eulogy last year.

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Anna Schott's avatar

I'm so sorry. I bet it was beautiful.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

While we’re on heavy shit: my mother died on Valentine’s Day. (She was very dramatic.) and I was (likely) conceived on Valentine’s Day. My birthday is November 16th. Maybe the memory killed her. 🤣she would have thought that was funny.

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Anna Schott's avatar

I was conceived on mother's day which was also my mother's birthday. It's a lot of pressure.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

I just took that in!

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Anna Schott's avatar

My sister was born on Halloween… sorry that’s all I’ve got

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Anna Schott's avatar

Oh wait! My dad was born on presidents day! My orthodox Jewish friend was born on christmas!

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Adam Nathan's avatar

AND MY WIFE IS APRIL 22ND WHICH IS EEEEEARTH DAY!!!!!!!!!!!

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Anna Schott's avatar

Ouch

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Anna Schott's avatar

Ok now I’m just getting desperate

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Fuck! I’ve got one more. This one’s a fucking mic drop. I don’t know why it didn’t come to me first. My wife is English and our daughter was born on, wait for it, the 4th of July.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

George Washington and Lincoln were both born on President’s Day

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David Roberts's avatar

"Maybe the surfers might have understood a little."

My favorite sentence. Hits exactly the right note.

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Adam Nathan's avatar

Thanks, David. I look forward to meeting you soon.

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Lor's avatar

“It was still too big.”

“And breathing the ocean air would not release it either…”

You cannot contain it. You want to shout it to the world, but really, you want, need , to be close enough to touch, even if it is just a finger. Close enough to whisper. My husband reminded me just the other day, it was the 49th Valentine’s Day we have celebrated together.

( No, we didn’t start dating in first grade).

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